Marriage
Determing the Needs of Your Mate
Here they are:
- Physical touch
Words of encouragement
Acts of service
Quality time
Gift giving
Communication
Sex
Physical touch
- Men usually like touch, but it leads to sex.
- Men learn to give and accept non-sexual touch.
- Women like intimacy and tenderness with touch without it leading to sex.
- Usually her greatest need.
- He needs you to speak your needs to him.
- All men need to be affirmed of their manhood.
- To feel respected and honored as the leader.
- She needs him to serve her above himself. (Help around the house.)
- He often needs her to touch him, clean, cook and help with kids.
- These acts feel like love to him and he should appreciate them.
- She has to have this.
- Massage her heart guys.
- He wants her attention, and for her not to give it all to the kids. (Don't put kids in the middle.)
- Makes her feel special. (thought of)
- Keeps his mind on you. (notes)
- Men use 800 words a day and women use 2000—this is a problem.
- She needs to express her needs to him.
- He needs to work at responding and validating that need.
- She deals on an emotional level, he deals on a logical level—this a problem.
- This is a need that most men have separate from touch. For a wife to desire and pursue her husband makes him feel loved and respected. It's goofy but it's the way men are built!
- Sex is also the deepest level of intimacy God gave us. It is what defines a couple as married. Allow sex to be a benefit to the marriage not a nuisance for the wife and a frustration for the husband.
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